Definition, Health Effects, and How Stop It

If you’re the one engaging in projection, it is possible to stop, but you’ll need to be aware of your behavior first. This can come through therapy and by accepting feedback. “As people progress through therapy and more individuals point out when and how they use projection, they become more aware of the defense and can more quickly identify when using it,” says Frank.

Think about your emotions and feelings towards others in different situations. When someone triggers a negative emotion in you, reflect instead of reacting. Is it really about them, or is something deeper going on inside you? Working with a therapist can help you learn different ways of coping.

If you’re on the receiving end of projection, Frank suggests you remember that the criticism or accusation isn’t about you. Try engaging the other person in an open, honest conversation about the situation and your feelings.

Dr. Dobson recommends confronting the projection directly. Say: “I believe you are saying this or feeling this, but it is not related to me. You may want to reflect on the strength of your emotions at this time and take some space.”

It’s important that you not accept or internalize what the person doing the projecting is saying about you, says Latimer. Communication and setting boundaries can help protect you and the relationship.